Welcome to The Fisher Divorce Assessment Scale

The following statements represent feelings and attitudes people frequently have while they are ending a love relationship. Keeping in mind one specific relationship you have ended or are ending, read each statement and decide how frequently it applies to your present feelings and attitudes.

Do not leave any statements unanswered. If the statement is not appropriate for you in your present situation, answer the way you feel you might if that statement were appropriate.

If you're completing this scale at the start of your work with Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, the score you receive will be your pre-test score. If you're taking the scale again having finished your work with Rebuilding, the score you'll be getting is your post-test score, which you can compare against your pre-test score to mark your progress. If you're taking the scale just to see how you're doing, that's OK too. When we score your quiz, we'll let you know how you measure up to a comparison group of 492 others who have completed the scale.

Let's begin.

Name Email

1. I am comfortable telling people I am separated from my love partner.

1 out of 100

2. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night.

2 out of 100

3. I am constantly thinking of my former love partner.

3 out of 100

4. I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship.

4 out of 100

5. I become upset when I think about my former love partner.

5 out of 100

6. I like being the person I am.

6 out of 100

7. I feel like crying because I feel so sad.

7 out of 100

8. I can communicate with my former love partner in a calm and rational manner.

8 out of 100

9. There are many things about my personality I would like to change.

9 out of 100

10. It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person.

10 out of 100

11. I feel depressed.

11 out of 100

12. I feel emotionally separated from my partner.

12 out of 100

13. People would not like me if they got to know me.

13 out of 100

14. I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my former partner.

14 out of 100

15. I feel like I am an attractive person.

15 out of 100

16. I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real.

16 out of 100

17. I find myself doing things just to please my former partner.

17 out of 100

18. I feel lonely.

18 out of 100

19. There are many things about my body I would like to change.

19 out of 100

20. I have many plans and goals for the future.

20 out of 100

21. I feel I don't have much sex appeal.

21 out of 100

22. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation.

22 out of 100

23. Joining a singles' group would make me feel I was a loser like them.

23 out of 100

24. It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living.

24 out of 100

25. I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my former partner.

25 out of 100

26. Because my relationship failed, I must be a failure.

26 out of 100

27. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my former partner.

27 out of 100

28. I feel comfortable being with people.

28 out of 100

29. I have trouble concentrating.

29 out of 100

30. I think of my former partner as related to me rather than as a separate person.

30 out of 100

31. I feel like an okay person.

31 out of 100

32. I hope my former partner is feeling as much emotional pain as I am, or more.

32 out of 100

33. I have close friends who know and understand me.

33 out of 100

34. I am unable to control my emotions.

34 out of 100

35. I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship.

35 out of 100

36. I have trouble sleeping.

36 out of 100

37. I easily become angry at my former partner.

37 out of 100

38. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners.

38 out of 100

39. Because my relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me.

39 out of 100

40. I either have no appetite or eat continuously, which is unusual for me.

40 out of 100

41. I don't want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending.

41 out of 100

42. I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry.

42 out of 100

43. I have given up on my former love partner and I getting back together.

43 out of 100

44. I feel very frightened inside.

44 out of 100

45. It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my former partner's side.

45 out of 100

46. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating.

46 out of 100

47. I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live.

47 out of 100

48. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal.

48 out of 100

49. I believe that if we try, my partner and I can save our relationship.

49 out of 100

50. My abdomen feels empty and hollow.

50 out of 100

51. I have feelings of romantic love for my former partner.

51 out of 100

52. I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings.

52 out of 100

53. I would like to get even with my former partner for hurting me.

53 out of 100

54. I avoid people even though I want and need friends.

54 out of 100

55. I have really made a mess of my life.

55 out of 100

56. I sigh a lot.

56 out of 100

57. I believe it is for the best for all concerned to have our relationship end.

57 out of 100

58. I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner.

58 out of 100

59. I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else.

59 out of 100

60. I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems.

60 out of 100

61. I blame my former partner for the failure of our relationship.

61 out of 100

62. I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person.

62 out of 100

63. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner.

63 out of 100

64. It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together.

64 out of 100

65. I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen.

65 out of 100

66. I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my former partner.

66 out of 100

67. Life is somehow passing me by.

67 out of 100

68. I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie theater.

68 out of 100

69. It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead.

69 out of 100

70. I feel I know and understand myself.

70 out of 100

71. I feel emotionally committed to my former partner.

71 out of 100

72. I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them.

72 out of 100

73. I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend.

73 out of 100

74. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another partner.

74 out of 100

75. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying.

75 out of 100

76. I can't believe our love relationship is ending.

76 out of 100

77. I become upset when I think about my partner dating someone else.

77 out of 100

78. I have a normal amount of self-confidence.

78 out of 100

79. People seem to enjoy being with me.

79 out of 100

80. Morally and spiritually, I believe it is wrong for our relationship to end.

80 out of 100

81. I wake up in the morning feeling there is no good reason to get out of bed.

81 out of 100

82. I find myself daydreaming about all the good times I had with my partner.

82 out of 100

83. People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person.

83 out of 100

84. I want to hurt my former partner by letting her/him know how much I hurt emotionally.

84 out of 100

85. I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single.

85 out of 100

86. I feel guilty about my love relationship ending.

86 out of 100

87. I feel emotionally insecure.

87 out of 100

88. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about having a sexual relationship.

88 out of 100

89. I feel emotionally weak and helpless.

89 out of 100

90. I think about ending my life with suicide.

90 out of 100

91. I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work out.

91 out of 100

92. I feel comfortable having my friends know our relationship is ending.

92 out of 100

93. I am angry about the things my former partner has been doing.

93 out of 100

94. I feel like I am going crazy.

94 out of 100

95. I an unable to perform sexually.

95 out of 100

96. I feel as though I am the only single person in a couples-only society.

96 out of 100

97. I feel like a single person rather than a married person.

97 out of 100

98. I feel my friends look at me as unstable now that I'm separated.

98 out of 100

99. I daydream about being with and talking to my former partner.

99 out of 100

100. I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man.

100 out of 100

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