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About
the Fisher Divorce Seminar
Outline and Overview of the
Ten-Session
"Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends" Seminar
The
following is an overview of the ten sessions of the seminar and the topics
to be discussed in each session. The reading assignments listed are
chapters in the book Rebuilding, When Your Relationship Ends, third
edition, by Drs. Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti. Notice that some of the
chapters in the textbook are not covered in any of the ten sessions. We
have identified the topics which are typically the most important and
challenging and we believe you will benefit the most by covering them
during the seminar. If you have the time and energy you will find it
helpful to read the chapters in the textbook which are not emphasized in
the ten weeks. We encourage you to keep meeting as a group, discussing
each of the remaining chapters after the ten week seminar is completed.
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Session
1, The Rebuilding Blocks Chapter 1, pages 4-28. The rebuilding blocks give
you an overview of the adjustment process used in this seminar to help you
make your crisis into a creative experience.
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2, Adaptation - "But It Worked When I Was a Kid." Chapter 4,
pages 52-65. You may have learned and developed adaptive behavior
during your formative years in order to get your needs met. This
adaptive behavior may become maladaptive behavior in your adult
relationships. You may find it helpful to develop more authentic
behavior.
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3, Grief - "There’s This Terrible Feeling of Loss." Chapter 8,
pages 96-109. An important aspect of ending a love relationship is
grieving your various losses of love. There is a connection between
overcoming denial, grieving, and disentangling from the former love
partner.
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4, Anger - "Damn the S.O.B.!" Chapter 9, pages 110-127. Ending a
love relationship results in feelings of anger. Resolving this anger
allows you to find forgiveness for yourself and for your former love
partner. It is important to deal with your angry feelings because they can
last for months and maybe years after the physical separation.
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5, Self-worth - "Maybe I’m Not So Bad After All." Chapter 11,
pages 136-146. The previous sessions have helped you work through your
painful feelings. Improving your feelings of self worth will help you move
beyond pain and find the strength to grow.
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Session 6,
Transition - "I’m Waking Up and Putting Away My
Leftovers." Chapter 12, pages 148-164. After improving your self
worth, you are emotionally stronger and ready to experience personal
growth. You are ready to wake up and begin taking charge of your life.
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7, Openness -"I’ve Been Hiding Behind A Mask." Chapter 13,
pages 166-175. You have been using a great deal of emotional energy
trying to be someone other than who really you are. You may choose to be
free to be you.
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Session 8, Love
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"Could
Somebody Really Care for Me?" Chapter 14, pages 176-187. It is okay
to love yourself. The more you love yourself, the more authentically you
can love others.
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Session 9, Relatedness - "Growing Relationships Help Me Rebuild."
Chapter 16, pages 200-215. The relationships that develop following the
ending of an important relationship can be an important part of your
growing process. You may find the friendships you make in this class
help you to grow and adjust.
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10, Sexuality - "I’m Interested, but I’m Scared." Chapter
17, pages 216-232. You long for emotional intimacy but you're afraid.
Intimacy starts with becoming better acquainted and more intimate with
yourself. Understanding your own sexuality, and learning more about the
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