Welcome to The Fisher Divorce Assessment Scale

The following statements represent feelings and attitudes people frequently have while they are ending a love relationship. Keeping in mind one specific relationship you have ended or are ending, read each statement and decide how frequently it applies to your present feelings and attitudes.

Do not leave any statements unanswered. If the statement is not appropriate for you in your present situation, answer the way you feel you might if that statement were appropriate.

If you're completing this scale at the start of your work with Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, the score you receive will be your pre-test score. If you're taking the scale again having finished your work with Rebuilding, the score you'll be getting is your post-test score, which you can compare against your pre-test score to mark your progress. If you're taking the scale just to see how you're doing, that's OK too. When we score your quiz, we'll let you know how you measure up to a comparison group of 492 others who have completed the scale.

Let's begin.

1. I am comfortable telling people I am separated from my love partner.
2. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night.
3. I am constantly thinking of my former love partner.
4. I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship.
5. I become upset when I think about my former love partner.
6. I like being the person I am.
7. I feel like crying because I feel so sad.
8. I can communicate with my former love partner in a calm and rational manner.
9. There are many things about my personality I would like to change.
10. It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person.
11. I feel depressed.
12. I feel emotionally separated from my partner.
13. People would not like me if they got to know me.
14. I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my former partner.
15. I feel like I am an attractive person.
16. I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real.
17. I find myself doing things just to please my former partner.
18. I feel lonely.
19. There are many things about my body I would like to change.
20. I have many plans and goals for the future.
21. I feel I don't have much sex appeal.
22. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation.
23. Joining a singles' group would make me feel I was a loser like them.
24. It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living.
25. I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my former partner.
26. Because my relationship failed, I must be a failure.
27. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my former partner.
28. I feel comfortable being with people.
29. I have trouble concentrating.
30. I think of my former partner as related to me rather than as a separate person.
31. I feel like an okay person.
32. I hope my former partner is feeling as much emotional pain as I am, or more.
33. I have close friends who know and understand me.
34. I am unable to control my emotions.
35. I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship.
36. I have trouble sleeping.
37. I easily become angry at my former partner.
38. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners.
39. Because my relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me.
40. I either have no appetite or eat continuously, which is unusual for me.
41. I don't want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending.
42. I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry.
43. I have given up on my former love partner and I getting back together.
44. I feel very frightened inside.
45. It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my former partner's side.
46. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating.
47. I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live.
48. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal.
49. I believe that if we try, my partner and I can save our relationship.
50. My abdomen feels empty and hollow.
51. I have feelings of romantic love for my former partner.
52. I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings.
53. I would like to get even with my former partner for hurting me.
54. I avoid people even though I want and need friends.
55. I have really made a mess of my life.
56. I sigh a lot.
57. I believe it is for the best for all concerned to have our relationship end.
58. I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner.
59. I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else.
60. I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems.
61. I blame my former partner for the failure of our relationship.
62. I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person.
63. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner.
64. It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together.
65. I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen.
66. I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my former partner.
67. Life is somehow passing me by.
68. I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie theater.
69. It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead.
70. I feel I know and understand myself.
71. I feel emotionally committed to my former partner.
72. I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them.
73. I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend.
74. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another partner.
75. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying.
76. I can't believe our love relationship is ending.
77. I become upset when I think about my partner dating someone else.
78. I have a normal amount of self-confidence.
79. People seem to enjoy being with me.
80. Morally and spiritually, I believe it is wrong for our relationship to end.
81. I wake up in the morning feeling there is no good reason to get out of bed.
82. I find myself daydreaming about all the good times I had with my partner.
83. People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person.
84. I want to hurt my former partner by letting her/him know how much I hurt emotionally.
85. I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single.
86. I feel guilty about my love relationship ending.
87. I feel emotionally insecure.
88. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about having a sexual relationship.
89. I feel emotionally weak and helpless.
90. I think about ending my life with suicide.
91. I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work out.
92. I feel comfortable having my friends know our relationship is ending.
93. I am angry about the things my former partner has been doing.
94. I feel like I am going crazy.
95. I an unable to perform sexually.
96. I feel as though I am the only single person in a couples-only society.
97. I feel like a single person rather than a married person.
98. I feel my friends look at me as unstable now that I'm separated.
99. I daydream about being with and talking to my former partner.
100. I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man.

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