Assessment Welcome to The Fisher Divorce Assessment Scale The following statements represent feelings and attitudes people frequently have while they are ending a love relationship. Keeping in mind one specific relationship you have ended or are ending, read each statement and decide how frequently it applies to your present feelings and attitudes. Do not leave any statements unanswered. If the statement is not appropriate for you in your present situation, answer the way you feel you might if that statement were appropriate. If you're completing this scale at the start of your work with Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, the score you receive will be your pre-test score. If you're taking the scale again having finished your work with Rebuilding, the score you'll be getting is your post-test score, which you can compare against your pre-test score to mark your progress. If you're taking the scale just to see how you're doing, that's OK too. When we score your quiz, we'll let you know how you measure up to a comparison group of 492 others who have completed the scale. Let's begin. NameEmail1. I am comfortable telling people I am separated from my love partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never2. I am physically and emotionally exhausted from morning until night.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never3. I am constantly thinking of my former love partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never4. I feel rejected by many of the friends I had when I was in the love relationship.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never5. I become upset when I think about my former love partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never6. I like being the person I am.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never7. I feel like crying because I feel so sad.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never8. I can communicate with my former love partner in a calm and rational manner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never9. There are many things about my personality I would like to change.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never10. It is easy for me to accept my becoming a single person.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never11. I feel depressed.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never12. I feel emotionally separated from my partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never13. People would not like me if they got to know me.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never14. I feel comfortable seeing and talking to my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never15. I feel like I am an attractive person.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never16. I feel as though I am in a daze and the world doesn't seem real.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never17. I find myself doing things just to please my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never18. I feel lonely.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never19. There are many things about my body I would like to change.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never20. I have many plans and goals for the future.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never21. I feel I don't have much sex appeal.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never22. I am relating and interacting in many new ways with people since my separation.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never23. Joining a singles' group would make me feel I was a loser like them.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never24. It is easy for me to organize my daily routine of living.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never25. I find myself making excuses to see and talk to my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never26. Because my relationship failed, I must be a failure.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never27. I feel like unloading my feelings of anger and hurt upon my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never28. I feel comfortable being with people.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never29. I have trouble concentrating.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never30. I think of my former partner as related to me rather than as a separate person.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never31. I feel like an okay person.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never32. I hope my former partner is feeling as much emotional pain as I am, or more.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never33. I have close friends who know and understand me.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never34. I am unable to control my emotions.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never35. I feel capable of building a deep and meaningful love relationship.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never36. I have trouble sleeping.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never37. I easily become angry at my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never38. I am afraid to trust people who might become love partners.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never39. Because my relationship ended, I feel there must be something wrong with me.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never40. I either have no appetite or eat continuously, which is unusual for me.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never41. I don't want to accept the fact that our love relationship is ending.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never42. I force myself to eat even though I'm not hungry.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never43. I have given up on my former love partner and I getting back together.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never44. I feel very frightened inside.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never45. It is important that my family, friends, and associates be on my side rather than on my former partner's side.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never46. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about dating.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never47. I feel capable of living the kind of life I would like to live.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never48. I have noticed my body weight is changing a great deal.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never49. I believe that if we try, my partner and I can save our relationship.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never50. My abdomen feels empty and hollow.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never51. I have feelings of romantic love for my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never52. I can make the decisions I need to because I know and trust my feelings.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never53. I would like to get even with my former partner for hurting me.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never54. I avoid people even though I want and need friends.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never55. I have really made a mess of my life.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never56. I sigh a lot.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never57. I believe it is for the best for all concerned to have our relationship end.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never58. I perform my daily activities in a mechanical and unfeeling manner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never59. I become upset when I think about my love partner having a love relationship with someone else.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never60. I feel capable of facing and dealing with my problems.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never61. I blame my former partner for the failure of our relationship.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never62. I am afraid of becoming sexually involved with another person.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never63. I feel adequate as a fe/male love partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never64. It will only be a matter of time until my love partner and I get back together.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never65. I feel detached and removed from activities around me as though I were watching them on a movie screen.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never66. I would like to continue having a sexual relationship with my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never67. Life is somehow passing me by.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never68. I feel comfortable going by myself to a public place such as a movie theater.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never69. It is good to feel alive again after having felt numb and emotionally dead.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never70. I feel I know and understand myself.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never71. I feel emotionally committed to my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never72. I want to be with people but I feel emotionally distant from them.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never73. I am the type of person I would like to have for a friend.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never74. I am afraid of becoming emotionally close to another partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never75. Even on the days when I am feeling good, I may suddenly become sad and start crying.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never76. I can't believe our love relationship is ending.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never77. I become upset when I think about my partner dating someone else.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never78. I have a normal amount of self-confidence.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never79. People seem to enjoy being with me.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never80. Morally and spiritually, I believe it is wrong for our relationship to end.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never81. I wake up in the morning feeling there is no good reason to get out of bed.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never82. I find myself daydreaming about all the good times I had with my partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never83. People want to have a love relationship with me because I feel like a lovable person.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never84. I want to hurt my former partner by letting her/him know how much I hurt emotionally.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never85. I feel comfortable going to social events even though I am single.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never86. I feel guilty about my love relationship ending.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never87. I feel emotionally insecure.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never88. I feel uncomfortable even thinking about having a sexual relationship.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never89. I feel emotionally weak and helpless.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never90. I think about ending my life with suicide.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never91. I understand the reasons why our love relationship did not work out.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never92. I feel comfortable having my friends know our relationship is ending.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never93. I am angry about the things my former partner has been doing.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never94. I feel like I am going crazy.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never95. I an unable to perform sexually.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never96. I feel as though I am the only single person in a couples-only society.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never97. I feel like a single person rather than a married person.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never98. I feel my friends look at me as unstable now that I'm separated.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never99. I daydream about being with and talking to my former partner.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost never100. I need to improve my feelings of self-worth about being a wo/man.almost alwaysusuallysometimesseldomalmost neverWhen you enter your information, you will be added to the New Harbinger Publications email list. Rest assured, we won’t bombard you with emails, we will never share your email with anyone else, and it's easy to unsubscribe.